Written by: ViR
I follow a lot of Fitbloggers on Twitter and read their blogs, and am almost a removed groupie, who loves watching their journey of health, fitness, and support of one another through all they do! I have wished to be in this group and it makes me feel like a middle schooler with a crush. Their community is pretty fantastic, and a lot like the pro-recovery one, where they share their journey in health, fitness, nutrition, and I find it really amazing to watch and read about since I too, as a recovery advocate, believe in moderation, balance, fitness, nutrition, and overall health in body, mind and spirit.
I don’t know if I have shared this before but my guy is a runner, he has been most of his life, and was on his Universities team as well. He runs daily, and if he misses running, boy can I tell!!! Running for him is sanity; it gives him an outlet for stress, and keeps his body and mind healthy. I have always WISHED I could run, not only so I could share a time with him I am not normally part of, but because it is such a fantastic exercise that requires no gym, special tools (other than shoes, etc), and you can just get up and go, versus the planning it takes me to make it to a pilates mat class.
When we first started dating, I tried running with him, he had us run two minutes and walk one, and go for 15-20 minutes. I did this for a week, but it was brutal. As a former dancer, and having both ankles with torn ligaments and tendons, and my natural hip turnout and knees, I feel like it was worse than a normal struggle. I think I could have gotten past the breathing and fitness level struggle, because as with anything else our bodies adapt with practice and training. I simply decided my body and its structure did not like, nor handle running well.
I love reading the fitbloggers who run, who sign up for marathons, and triathlons’, and support each-other in tweet chats, in replies, and blogs, that share their journeys. I had a moment this morning of “wishful” thinking that if I could run, I would be accepted into this group. WOW. My insecurity and wish to belong, made me wish to do something my body simply doesn’t do well. This morning I tweeted “I sometimes wish my body could run. But hey I can do the splits so that’s something right?” 🙂
That was a turning point in self awareness. I honestly needed to switch perspectives and be grateful for what I CAN do versus what I WISH I could do. Everyone’s body is different, and each one of us has different strengths in what it can do, and I need to stop the wishful thinking, and focus on what I can do. So I decided to write a list of what I can do so when I find myself struggling.
– I can & do walk miles a day to and from work
– I can & do go to pilates at least three times a week
– I can do a roll up with strength in my legs so that I do not have to re-adjust my head back onto the mat when I am done
– I can do a full push-up challenge in plank
– I can do a teaser that is getting better in time
– I can roll like a ball in various positions and laugh at myself whenever I get stuck
– I can do a backbend
– I can go through my vinyasa with ease now! I LOVE the feeling!
– I can do the splits after stretching a few minutes
– I can do a cartwheel
– I can do a flip in the pool off the wall
– I can hula hoop
– I can skip & jump (preferably on my bed)
Have you ever found yourself comparing to others and the fitness they do? Do you think “the grass is always greener”? How about taking a few minutes when these thoughts come up and writing out what you CAN do! Maybe you will find you can do more than you thought you could!
What I have discovered is that my personal growth in fitness will build upon my can-do’s. I WILL be open to trying new things, and seeing if I enjoy it. I don’t enjoy running, but I do LOVE pilates and yoga mix classes, so why not focus on what I love, what I can do, and work on pushing myself within the kind of fitness my individual body enjoys? I am constantly working towards listening and respecting my body, and this is one more way in doing that, while promoting health in body, mind and spirit.
What CAN you do???
~ Be yourself everyone else is taken ~ Oscar Wilde